All year long I’ve been thinking of being intentional. We often complain of how we don’t like certain aspects of our life but rarely do we do anything about it. As a matter of fact, we hide under ‘kujiitikia ni muhimu’ and other related phrases that are almost always used in the wrong context just to make us feel comfortable with what is not best for us.

BC (before corona, gerrit?😂) I took everything for granted. Nothing ever bothered me eti a lot. However, now that I have had so much time on my hands, I’ve found myself being brutally honest with me. I was so much of a kujiitikia ni muhimu girl that it was self-destructive. Every time you get comfortable with any of your flaws that deep down in your heart you know you can change, you are doing yourself more harm than good.

Being intentional calls for a lot of effort and zeal. It’s not as easy as getting yourself a Tuskys’ hotdog + ice-cold fanta combo on a sunny Friday afternoon (I know that comparison was unnecessary, but I’ve used it and you won’t do anything about it). It is a decision you need to make with every new sunrise, whether you want to or not.

In as much as I’ve been thinking of intentionality all year long, to be more precise, for 9 MONTHS, I just started my journey. Interesting, right? Lemme mention a few tips that I feel will help me remain on course.

1. Accept your flaws

The first step when working on oneself is always accepting the flaw that you want to correct. In my opinion, this is the hardest step because it requires you to be really honest with yourself. It is very easy to be honest with people around you but to be honest with oneself requires guts. I am convinced this is a reason people stay in toxic relationships; because they don’t want to accept they made a wrong choice.

2. Chart out a plan.

3. Get as much help as you can. This could range from getting resources online to joining a support group or better still finding an accountability partner. Pick the option that best works for you.

These steps require you to be VERY intentional. You need to intentionally accept your flaws, you need to intentionally make your plan and follow it strictly, you need to intentionally look for help. Thinking of it, I would equate intentionality to that push that comes from within.

So the next time you think of being comfortable with your tardiness and expecting the rest of us to accept you as you are, please give yourself a pep talk. After the pep talk, climb Mt. Kenya if you need to, to summon that inner push from your ancestors to correct the tardiness.

Being intentional is a virtue we need to fully incorporate into our lives and not just when we are correcting our flaws. You need to intentionally work on being a better sibling, a listening parent, a helping colleague, an amazing friend. I know you are smart enough to get the message I’m passing.

I wish you all the very best in that area of your life that you are very intentional on improving😊.

~Bible Vibes~

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,

Philippians 3:13